"People will whisper about your success, and shout about your failure"
9 years ago I posted this quote on my Social media. (Gotta love those Facebook memories, hey?)
I was 20 years young at the time. Funny thing is, I had ZERO idea what I was doing or what I was actually talking about. I had read this quote somewhere and thought it was clever. So I posted it on my timeline thinking I was going to sound wise and leave an impression.
Little did I know how true this statement was, or what the next 5 years were going to bring.
- 2 failed businesses adventures
- a broken engagement
- lost friendships
- a trip to the hospital due to suicidal thoughts
To this day, there are still a people who knew me back at this time in my life that bring some of these sore memories up. Pointing out my failures, flaws, or how they would have done it "better," themselves.
These memories no longer bother me. I have healed them and laid them to rest. It was difficult, but i had to put in the work to explore these triggers to learn the hidden lessons.
There were 2 major things I learnt in those 5 years.
💥⚠️"HARD TO SWALLOW PILLS"⚠️💥
1) Absolutely NONE of this was a "failure."
Yes, things did not go as planned. However, if life didn't happen the way it did, I would not be the person who I am today. Which I'm proud of. I learnt so much about myself, and what I actually want out of life.
NOTHING is a failure if we learn from the experience.
Wisdom is the result of lessons learned through experience. Take away the learning, and we are left only with experience. We must make sure we are always aiming to learn. OWN that.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting we have made a mistake or don't know the answer. OWNING this is the gateway to leading an authentic, Confident life.
2) Most of the people we THINK we are going to have support from, won't be there.
The reason for this is because when we are working towards doing something AMAZING with OUR life, we make those around us feel VULNERABLE for not acting on their own dreams. Thus producing the "Crab in the Bucket," effect.
(Will build on this more at a later date).
Most of the time, we will have more "genuine" support from complete strangers. Of course, its always nice to have support. But if we place our own personal worth and value in the thoughts, opinions, and actions of others, I'm afraid to say that we're setting ourselves up for a bad time. Happiness can only come from inside of ourselves.
One of the MOST important things to remember, is that the ONLY thing in YOUR life that matters, is what YOU think about yourself when you're by yourself. Everything else in your life will follow suit to this belief