Oh boy... isn't that a bold statement. One that I hear all the time.
It floors me on how often I hear this statement.
But then I remember back to a time when, I too, thought like this.
How about yourself? Do you, or, have you ever had this belief? If so, I recommend you read further. It's a quick read, I promise.
The sole purpose of this statement is to give ourselves hope to find comfort and freedom.
Freedom from what you may ask??
**Freedom from taking responsibility of our own life, and OWNING the choices WE made to lead us to where we are, and who we are today. Freedom from feeling vulnerable**
THE HARD TO SWALLOW PILL OF TRUTH IS..... NO, all men and women are not the same.
There is only ONE common factor in all of our failed relationships.
It's us. Every single person out there on this beautiful planet is as unique as a snowflake.
When we choose to ignore the self work that WE need to do, we will continuously attract people with similar negative tendencies into our lives. Making it SEEM like all men/women are the same.
The fact is, WE are the one's who are the same and are choosing to remain the same.
We make that choice to not outgrow and evolve from our old self because it's so much easier to just place that blame onto others.
Remember the age old saying, " With every finger you point, there is 3 pointing back at you"? This couldn't be more true for this belief pattern.
To put it in the most blunt and transparent way possible, WE MUST FIGURE OUT OWN SHIT OUT FIRST, BEFORE getting into another relationship.
Ya, I know this might sound harsh. But I'm not here to sugar coat anything. That never gets anything accomplished.
This is our life. Every choice we have made has led us to this point where we are now. And that's actually beautiful thought. Because that means we are always 1 decision away from a different life.
Ask yourself this question:
Would you date you?
If the answer is yes, thats fantastic! Thank you for reading this far.
If the answer is no... There is some work to be done.
This is not a bad thing!
This is the doorway to your freedom!
Admitting to yourself that self work is needed is the first step out of the shadows, and into the light that is YOU.
Whichever the case, I promise, you can get to where you want to go. You just have to want it bad enough.
- Coach Wolverine