Introduction: A Familiar Tale of Broken Resolutions
Yes, Christmas is just around the corner. However, what comes shortly after in what feels like a 24-hour turnaround? New years. This is the time when many of us begin to plan for the changes we want to make for ourselves in the new year.
'New year new me.' Am I right?
As much as I am an advocate for "start now, not when," I understand that there is some benefit to using the New Year's Resolution Energy as a catalyst to begin new, beneficial habits. However, I'm sure you have been in the position of having all the desire and motivation in the world to start and maintain your new health and fitness goals. And then...
We've all been there – standing at the threshold of a new year, brimming with enthusiasm and determination to conquer our health and fitness goals. The gym membership is purchased, the refrigerator stocked with meat & fruit, and the running shoes laced up. Yet, as the months unfold, the once-vibrant resolutions unravel, leaving us in a state of dismay.
What went wrong?
As I found myself stuck in this perpetual cycle of failed promises to my own well-being, I delved deep into introspection, only to discover a silent saboteur – the unhealed inner child.
The Silent Saboteur: Unveiling the Inner Child Influence
A Walk Down Memory Lane
Growing up, we all carry the baggage of childhood experiences, and I was no exception. My inner child, wounded by past traumas and unmet needs, lingered in the shadows, affecting my decisions and sabotaging my attempts at a healthier lifestyle.
The Impact on Resolutions
Unknown to me, my unhealed inner child was the puppeteer behind my broken resolutions. As I resolved to embrace a fitter self, the echoes of childhood wounds undermined my efforts, whispering doubts and fears that manifested as self-sabotage.
The Journey of Self Discovery: Unraveling the Tangled Threads
Acknowledging the Inner Child
The first step in breaking this cycle was acknowledging the existence of my unhealed inner child. It required peeling back layers of denial and facing uncomfortable truths about the impact of childhood on my present choices.
Vulnerability became my ally on this journey. I started a journal, pouring out my thoughts and emotions, creating a safe space for the inner child to express himself. This act of self-reflection paved the way for healing.
Rebuilding the Foundations: From Broken Resolutions to Lasting Change
Mindfulness and Self-Compassion
In the quest for a healthier lifestyle, I learned that mindfulness and self-compassion were indispensable tools. Instead of harshly judging myself for slipping on my resolutions, I adopted a compassionate stance, understanding that setbacks were a natural part of the process.
Healing Rituals and Practices
Incorporating healing rituals and practices into my daily routine became a cornerstone of my transformation. Whether it was meditation, therapy, or engaging in activities that brought joy, these practices nurtured my wounded inner child, gradually loosening the grip of past traumas.
Decoding the Psychology: The Role of the Inner Child in Goal Setting
To break free from the shackles of failed resolutions, I had to identify the triggers that activated my inner child's disruptive behaviour. Certain situations or emotions acted as time bombs, threatening to derail my progress. Recognizing these triggers allowed me to navigate them with mindfulness and resilience.
Setting Realistic Goals
Rather than succumbing to the allure of grand, intimidating goals, I learned to set realistic and achievable targets. Each small victory became a stepping stone, building confidence and proving to my inner child that change was possible.
Crafting a New Narrative: The Power of Self Talk
The narrative we weave in our minds holds immense power. By consciously shaping my self-talk, I began to rewrite the story I told myself about myself. Affirmations and mantras became a daily practice, gradually replacing the self-limiting beliefs ingrained in my subconscious.
Visualization emerged as a potent tool in this narrative transformation. I envisioned the person I aspired to be, painting vivid mental pictures of achieving my health and fitness goals. This not only motivated me but also provided a roadmap for my inner child to follow.
Nurturing Resilience: Bouncing Back from Setbacks
Learning from Setbacks
Setbacks are not roadblocks but detours on the path to transformation. Instead of viewing them as failures, I reframed setbacks as opportunities for growth. Each stumble became a lesson, guiding me toward a more resilient version of myself.
Acknowledging and celebrating small victories became crucial in cultivating resilience. Whether it was completing a challenging workout or resisting the temptation of unhealthy snacks, every achievement reinforced my commitment to change.
Conclusion: A Journey of Liberation
As I reflect on this transformative journey, I recognize that the path to health and fitness is not just physical but deeply intertwined with our emotional well-being. The unhealed inner child, once a silent saboteur, became a catalyst for growth and self-discovery.
In unravelling the tangled threads of failed resolutions, I discovered the profound truth that sustainable change begins from within. By addressing the wounds of the past, setting realistic goals, and adopting a mindset of self-compassion, I liberated myself from the chains of unmet childhood needs.
It does not matter how our body looks on the outside. If we have not taken the time to remove the root of our insecurity - the driving force that led us to set these goals in the first place, the weeds of feeling inadequate will return. One day.
So, as the new year creeps closer, I invite you to embark on a journey of self-discovery. Peel back the layers, confront the shadows, and embrace the transformative power of healing your inner child. In doing so, you may find that the resolutions you once thought elusive become the stepping stones to a healthier, happier you.
If you're ready to embark on this journey, remember, you're not alone. Share your thoughts below and let's start a conversation about healing and embracing your inner child.
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- Dillon AKA Wolverine